LOVE. More Love

I once saw this inscription made with a finger on a car that was driving in front of me, splashed with autumn mud.

Love is in the air

I thought about it. The inscription triggered a series of my memories and situations from my own experience and the experience of people with whom I interacted at various stages of my life.

But in the end, we all go precisely to love. We somehow unconsciously or consciously seek it, strive for it, as for a lifeline in the stormy waters of life.

Very often this search is accompanied by the conviction that a person will appear in life who will turn the whole space upside down, warm with warmth, understanding, care. And this bright harbor will become an absolute paradise and fill the heart with happiness. Yes, of course - there is such a branch of reality. Definitely there is.

But on the way to it, we often get into codependent relationships, get hurt by them. We close ourselves off even more, closing our hearts, putting on protective militant armor or going into deep sadness and mistrust.

We all come from childhood and rarely any of us were born and raised in an atmosphere of unconditional and all-accepting love. Not when we were praised, loved, hugged, given encouraging words for something: successes, achievements, good behavior, etc. BUT JUST LIKE THAT.

How whole and resilient we would be if our parents had conveyed to us the absolute truth of unconditional love. And when would we in childhood tried and learned the boundaries of what was permitted, if we heard from them: I don’t like this, this is unacceptable with me or with someone/something because… BUT! No matter how you manifest yourself now, no matter what is happening to you now, I still love and will always love you. UNCONDITIONALLY.

We wouldn't have to earn love and attention, an approving pat on the head, by living up to someone's expectations, forgetting where the true me is. We would know – I am loved. Unconditionally. And this gives me support. Gives me that inner foundation of security and stability on which I can build my complete world from my true desires and intentions. From my inner value (and here – without a shade of egocentricity in the sense of an arrogant ego).

It's not that our wonderful and beloved parents didn't want to give us such a foundation. They just couldn't. They just didn't know how. They loved as best they could. They gave as their parents had in turn given them.

And so, on our life path, we all strive and seek such love, support and acceptance. From relatives, from colleagues, from partners, from simply external strangers.

But who can give us exactly what we need? How can we show ourselves how we should be loved? How do we show the universe that look: is what I need? What love, acceptance and value do we show towards ourselves? After all, inside us there is an inner adult who says to our inner child: look, I love you for this and that; you deserve my encouragement under such and such conditions, etc.

What to do? The answer is still the same - to recognize, accept and change something in yourself.

Lots of unconditional love to all of you!